Wedding: Matrix


The Matrix Wedding: Wake up!
Cyd and Mariecris always described their participiation with Ya Chasin Community, St Albans as like “being sucked out of the Matrix”, so when it came time to get married they went with the themes and images from the movie they loved.
The challenge was how to do this in a way that wasn’t totally cliche as being part of Christian circles with a penchant for the apocalyptic, The Matrix has been pretty much done to death. The other side of this was a traditional evangelical Fillipino crowd who had little idea what The Matrix was about.
Highlights:
1. The “Wake Up” theme : Finally getting to use The Parable of the Wise and Foolish Virgins at a wedding!
2. Processional Music “Mona Lisa Overdrive” from Matrix Reloaded soundtrack: In your face dramatic!
3. Ya Chasin Prayer Collage: cool pop culture visual at front of altar. Just talking about it is a cool way of praying!
Questionable:
1. Cyd and Groomsmen dressed in Neo style trenchcoats in 35 degrees while I wore a traditional Filo Barong!
2. Huge Fountain being turned on at moment of the kiss, drowning out rest of ceremony.
3. “Sleeping Awake” by POD (Matrix Reloaded) performed by band during signing of register. Great lyrics, A little hardcore for traditional Filo crowd!…but it did drown out the fountain!
4. Just way to many words on my part!
Ceremony below…


WAKE UP! – The Matrix Wedding

Venue: Sheldon Garden, Sunshine. An incredible paved outdoor space, semi – enclosed by glass with giant sail/marquee covering and full
1. Asian mats and seating,
2. Pathway lamps filled with Citronella oil in sand filled pots
3. Phat Alberts Table as the altar upon which will sit the family and marriage lamps and the Ya Chasin Prayer Collage.

The Chasers!
The Wake up Call: Marcus Curnow
Ladies and Gentlemen you are today here because you took the red pill . You received an invitation to wake up!
Reading : Matthew 25:1-13 : Marcus Curnow
Listen to the story of an ancient Jewish teacher
…the Kingdom of heaven will be like this. Once there were ten girls who took their oil lamps and went out to meet the bridegroom. Five of them were foolish, and the other five were wise. The foolish ones took their lamps but did not take any extra oil with them, while the wise ones took containers full of oil for their lamps. The bridegroom was late in coming, so the girls began to nod and fall asleep.
It was already midnight when the cry rang out, ‘Here is the bridegroom! Come and meet him! The ten girls woke up and trimmed their lamps. Then the foolish ones said to the wise ones, ‘Give us some of your oil, because our lamps are going out.’ ‘No way, the wise ones answered, ‘there is not enough for you and for us. Go to the shop and buy some for yourselves.’ So the foolish girls went off to buy some oil; and while they were gone, the bridegroom arrived. The five girls who were ready went in with him to the wedding feast, and the door was closed.
“Later the other girls arrived, ‘Sir, sir! Let us in!’ they cried out. ‘Do I know you?’ the bridegroom answered, ‘I do not know you.’”
And Jesus concluded, “Stay awake, then, because you do not know the day or the hour.”
“Ladies and Gentlemen, I invite you to wake up and to stand. The bridegroom is coming! Light the lamps!”
Various Chasers yell out “Light the lamps!”
Lighting of the Pathway Lamps : Tri Nguyen and Kings Park Boyz
Entrance:
Matrix Reloaded Soundtrack, “Mona Lisa Overdrive” Juno Reactor/Don Davis
Page Boy: Ewen Arthur Thomas Curnow with rings
Boys : Cyd and Parents
Flower Girl
Girls
MCT & Parents
Welcome: Marcus Curnow
Friends, Welcome to the wedding today of Cyd and Mariecris. My name is Marcus Curnow from Cyd and Mariecris’ church community known as Ya Chasin. I know that many family and friends from many different parts of their lives are gathered here. This is very significant for Cyd and Mariecris and so whatever part you play or have played, big or small, they would like to begin by welcoming you.
Welcome and Rock and Water Greeting
• Cyd explains rock and Mariecris explains water; they bow to people,
• Marcus invites people to return the greeting
• Couple turn and bow to each other
As we will celebrate, marriage is not just about a georgeous couple, it’s about community and so you are not just spectators today. You are participants, and during the ceremony will we be calling for your support so Be Awake!
I don’t know what you thought when you placed your invitation in the DVD to be confronted with the words Wake up! They were words and images from the recent series of movies called The Matrix. A story in which humanity struggles to free itself from the slavery imposed on us by our own arrogance and an artificial reality created by our own machines.
It’s a sci-fi adventure movie but it themes are rich with Christian symbolism. The nature of truth, what it means to be truly alive and free, to be born again from a dream world and the struggle to see and follow a difficult path that others around you don’t see.
These are the themes of true Christian faith, and so the Matrix has become a powerful metaphor for Cyd and Maricris in both their personal spiritual renewal and in their relationship together. They wanted these ideas and images at the heart of our celebration today.
It makes for a different sort of wedding but this is a good thing because often weddings are full of the problems in our society which often “put us to sleep” in a spiritual/literal sense.
• So often weddings become an expression of culture that is not heartfelt, a dry ritual that has only surface meaning.
• They can be extravagant and expensive occasions, of demonstrating our success and status or impressing and competing with others, but which in reality often leave us with financial pain and social obligation.
• Or the myth of Prince and Princess for a day, where we pretty ourselves up, we pretend that things are beautiful, and everything is happy, but we’re pretending, and the breakdown of marriage and relationships lie not to far below the surface.
It is true that weddings can be ruined by the immaturity of the couple, or their families and peers. Thankfully, whilst Cyd and Mariecris are young, I trust this is not the case today. These are thinking people who are not afraid to question. They are a couple who do not like to pretend and don’t want others to pretend. And so they have thought hard about what would be an honest expression for them to be awake to a different vision of reality from that of the dream world we have described:
After “Consulting the oracle”, they, like the Matrix movie, have found inspiration in the ancient stories of the Jewish-Christian tradition. Today’s ceremony is structured around three meanings of marriage which they want to remain awake to. Marriage in creation; The marriage call; and the promise of covenant love.

We will now ask Ron Ham, a pastor from the family’s home church at Footscray Baptist to offer a prayer to awaken us to marriage in creation.
Awake to Marriage in Creation
Prayer: Ron Ham, Footscray Baptist Church (Genesis 1, ?Psalm, ?Song of Songs)
Marcus to mention the Lookout at Gelibrand Hill
the reason for outdoor wedding, bigger than church.
love of place, Westside, St Albans.
Ken and Angelica will bring us a reading that highlights God’s love of place….
Awake to the Marriage Call (Vocation)
Reading: Luke 12:22-37 : Ken Sulte and Angelica Rivero
Then Jesus said to the disciples, “And so I tell you not to worry about the food you need to stay alive or about the clothes you need for your body. Life is much more important than food, and the body much more important than clothes. Look at the crows: they don’t plant seeds or gather a harvest; they don’t have store-rooms or barns; God feeds them! You are worth so much more than birds! Can any of you live a bit longer by worrying about it? If you can’t manage even such a small thing why worry about the other things? Look how the wild flowers grow: they don’t work or make clothes for themselves. But I tell you that not even King Solomon with all his wealth had clothes as beautiful as one of these flowers. It is God who clothes the wild grass- grass that is here today and gone tomorrow, burnt up in the oven. Won’t he be all the more sure to clothe you? What little faith you have!
So don’t be all upset, always concerned about what you will eat or drink For people who do not know God run after these things and God knows that you need them. But seek God’s kingdom and these things will be given to you as well.
Do not be afraid, little flock, for God is pleased to give you the kindgom. Sell all your belongings and give the money to the poor. Provide for yourselves purses that don’t wear out, and save your riches in heaven, where they will never decrease, because no thief can get to them, and no moth can destroy them. For where your treasure is, there your heart is also.
Be ready for whatever comes, dressed for action, and keep your lamps burning, like servants waiting for their master to come back from a wedding feast. When he comes and knocks, they will open the door for him at once. How happy are those servants whose master finds them awake and ready when he returns! I tell you that he will take off his coat, have them sit down and serve them, sharing his wedding feast with them. It doesn’t matter what time of the night he arrives; they’re awake- and so blessed!
Reflection : Marcus Curnow
The second meaning that Cyd and Mariecris wish us to celebrate today is the Marriage Call . Another word for call is vocation which comes from the Latin vocatio, to call, and vox which means voice. Marriage isn’t just a private love thing between Cyd and Mariecris. It is a divine call to a holy life, a lifelong process of listening for and hearing Gods voice then responding to God’s call.
The call began for these two six years ago with a whisper from the heart, a falling in love that captured their attention. But this was more than the voice of their own infatuation and desire, it is a calling from outside themselves to be a gift to the other person.
In the tradition from which you have come there has sometimes been a tendency to suggest that you can best serve God single. That love for each other can get in the way of your love for God. Many of you will know the now infamous story of how Cyd once told Mariecris they had to break up so he could serve God by hanging out with the boys in the schools. I think some of the boys here today might think you were crazy Cyd. Thankfully his mentor and sponsor today, Tri made Cyd return to Mariecris and apologise before he would let him come to the school because he understood that marriage is also a religious vocation.
When we think religious vocation we often think monks or nuns who take vows In the.Benedictine tradition monks and nuns take vow to stay in one place, not have sex, not possesions and Obeying their order in order to serve God. marriage is similar. Today you will also take vows. Not of Stability: but you will make a commitment for life. You will not take a vow of Chastity but you will take a vow of sexual fidelity. You will not take a vow of poverty but you will vow to share all possessions. You will not vow obedience but you will mutual influence and submission.
In the same way that monks and nuns take vows to create a community by which to serve God we can see marriage as a spiritual discipline. Our reading said if you cant manage the small things, why worry about others. It’s in the little things that we find God’s love, not for big ideas or ministries, but for birds and flowers. Cyd and Mariecris, marriage can promote a spiritual maturity and growth in your lives as you learn to practise and perfect love. Love isn’t something you fall in and out of but something that you learn in the day to day hackwork of a lifelong relationship. Be awake to it!
As marriage goes on the call of your love will become broader. The voice is often heard in family life and in the significant task of raising children. Children are the basis of any community or healthy philosophy of life so don’t be scared of this call, worrying that they will only restrict or limit you. In a troubled violent world there is no more radical task or statement of hope for the future than raising children who understand love.
I’m telling you that these ‘little’ domestic things, living together and raising kids are the stuff of love you must care about them, but here’s the thing, you must not worry about theme. These are often sources of great stress and worry in marriage, and the exact things that put relationships to sleep! Love always reaches further and as your love deepens the call extends further…our reading suggests that the only way to stay awake is not to worry about these things but to “Seek first the kingdom of God.”
The idea of the kingdom of God has been a powerful one in sucking your relationship out of “the Matrix” of worries. The ‘kingdom’ story of ‘The Great Banquet’ is comes to life around the table at Ya Chasin each Thursday night , or ‘The Wedding Banquet,’ where everyone, especially the outsiders are invited.
There is much the security of a strong marriage can give to others, creating a space for those who know no love. There are a bunch of people here whom as a couple you have already helped in their struggles. We are already seeing. Your marriage vocation can serve your heart and connection with young people in St Albans. A good way to learn how not to worry about your stuff is to get it knocked off by neighbours struggling with drug issues.
Your passion for the kingdom is shown in the way you deal with these issues. It’s in the way you love life and party together. It enriches you and us, and builds community. This is where the real treasure is in life that doesn’t decay, so stay awake to this call of love
For many a wedding is their big romantic day, an often can be a self-centred experience., You on the other hand are today responding to a call to begin a life together with God, that God wants to use to help you together; and you together with all of us, to Seeking first Gods kingdom, restoring community and creation in the world. This is the lamp we want you to light and keep burning today.
Declaration of Call
Cyd and MariecrisHaving heard the call which we have today proclaimed. Of your own free will, understanding the responsibility and commitment it invites, will you choose to belong to each other in the vocation of marriage?
We will
Parents and siblings </em>(they stand)
Isidro and Nora, Rodell and Virginia, you have raised Cyd and Mariecris out of the vocation of your own marriage. Jonathan and Ken, Jon Jon and Mary Ann you have grown up alongside them. Will you give your blessing to their marriage and share in its joys and challenges as they embark on this way of life together.
We will
Lighting of the Family lamps: The parents each light their Family Lamp.
Community of family and friends </em>(they stand)Will you give your blessing and will you support them as they embark on this way of life together.
We will
Community Song: This Little Light of Mine : Arnold, JP: Guitar, Homer: Snare Drum, Cookie, Jesus
This little light of mine, I’m gunna let it shine
Waking up to the Marriage call, were gunna let it shine
Celebrating Cyd and Mariecris, were gunna let it shine
Takin the red pill not the blue; were gunna let it shine…..
This little light of mine, I’m gunna let it shine…
Awake to the Promise of Covenant Love
The third and final image we wish to celebrate today is the promise of covenant love. Very soon Cyd and Mariecris will make promises to each other, a covenant. This is important for us because in a society that has many superficial ways of understanding relationship, covenant is a primary way in which the bible understands what it means to love.
In a story so powerful that it has become the basis of Judaism, Christianity and Islam, Abraham breaks the body of a sacrificed animal and walking between it with a flaming lamp receives promises from God to redeem the world. It’s powerful stuff and is in part re-enacted in the Christian tradition of marriage as the couple walks down the aisle in between the two families. We have lamps here today.
All through the scriptures the authors intertwine these two covenant marriages. God’s relationship to God’s people and our marriage to our partner. It suggests that marriage helps us to understand God’s relationship to us and God’s relationship to us helps us to understand marriage.
The great thing about these scripture stories is they’re not reality TV romances, they are honest. They tell us quite bluntly that God’s relationship with us has often been a pretty rocky marriage. Our religion often fails, instead of waking us up it often puts us to sleep, and God hates it. If any of you here today have known Mariecris and Cyd for any length of time you will know that they are passionate about God but they are also pretty public about what they don’t like about church and its failings. But we also know that relationships are not easy, and just like the church fails God, in your own relationship there will be many ways in which you also fail to love each other. So how do we deal with that? We know that many well intentioned, even ‘out of the matrix’ marriages fail. So what hope have you got?
Your hope is found in stories that tell us that God never stops loving. The ancient prophet Hosea describes the passionate love of God in terms of a marriage at a time when his own marriage relationship had been torn apart because of the public unfaithfulness of his partner. In it he found a powerful personal connection with how God felt about the brokenness of the religion of his own day. Yet in the promises of God he saw a hope for religion and himself that ultimately led to him reconciling with his wife.
Now that would make good reality TV, but the real, tough covenant love of God that doesn’t look elsewhere when times are tough and relationships break but offers patience, faithfulness, deep forgiveness and reconciliation. Even when you’ve each got nothing left to give each other, there is grace, the creative love of the universe reaching out to hold you. That’s the sort of story on which to base a marriage, that’s the lamp you want to keep burning.
And so with this understanding Cyd and Mariecris we come to the time where before God and this community, I ask you to make your covenant to each other today….
The Covenanting
Vows:
Mariecris and Cyd
Rings : Ewen to give to Marcus
Marcus: (Holds up rings) The rings, symbols of belonging and of everlasting love.
Cyd: Mariecris I give you this ring, a symbol of our belonging in the circle of God’s covenant love.
Mariecris: Cyd I give you this ring, a symbol of our ever lasting covenant love.
Lighting of the Marriage Lamp: (image on Cyds phone)Light lamp and pass through people
Blessing and PronouncementThe flame of your love now burns as one.
May it burn forever,
Warming your hearts,
Lightening your path,
And leading you together
Towards the one Eternal Light.
Amen
Cyd and Mariecris, today in this place, before God, your family and friends you have sworn solemn vows to belong to each other forevermore. Then by the power vested in me in law and in the name of Almighty God, I pronounce you husband and wife.
Da Kiss
Prayers:

Collage: Ya Chasin Community: The prayer collage included an icon of St. Isidro, Saint of farmers popular in Spanish/Filo tradition and after whom Cyd is named. Ironically he was married to a St. Maria…Cyd & Mariecris, Isidro & Maria….nice connection we thought
Blessing: Emilio and Linda
Signing of the Registar : Bridal Party proceed to Glass House with party and sponsors
Musical Item: “Sleeping Awake”: P.O.D, Matrix Reloaded Soundtrack David Cook and Band
Reveal to me
The mysteries
Can you tell me what it means?
Explain these motions and metaphors
Unlock these secrets in me
Describe the visions
The meaning is missing
Won’t anybody listen?
Define the riddles of my mind
Nothing is really as it seems
Dreaming of Zion awake
Sleeping awake
Dreaming of Zion awake
Can’t stop sleeping awake
Do you see what I see?
Can you hear what I hear?
Do you feel like I feel?
Do you see what I see?
Can you hear what I hear?
Do you feel like I feel?
Can’t stop sleeping awake
Can you see it?
The writing
Can you tell me what it means?
Translate the symbols; enigma
Expressions keep pushing me
The message slips and the meaning is missing
Won’t anybody listen?
Prophecy; interpretate the signs
Nothing is really as it seems
Dreaming of Zion awake
Sleeping awake
Dreaming of Zion awake
Can’t stop sleeping awake
Do you see what I see?
Can you hear what I hear?
Do you feel like I feel?
Can’t stop sleeping awake
Can anybody seeme?
Can anybody hearme?
Can anybody feel me?
Is anybody out there?

Photo opportunity for people at the Glass House
Bridal Party return to the Big Top!
Housekeeping:The covenant promise of Revelation says “Blessed are those invited to the wedding supper of the Lamb” and we are going to make this promise a reality today with a big party for Mariecris and Cyd this evening. You will be blessed and so will they!
The ceremony will soon conclude, The bar will be open, and you are invited to enjoy the garden surrounds.
Mariecris and Cyd will join us there shortly.
Photos for families will take place on the corner steps shortly and we are also keen to have a photo with everyone…..so stick around.
After all this has happened Maricris and Cyd will leave us for photos off site, and will rejoin those who are staying at the reception centre across the way later on.
Blessing and Announcement of Couple: Marcus Curnow
Cyd and Mariecris, Family and Friends
I Pray you will stay awake to the creation that gives you life,
Be awake to the voice of God, calling you to love; to each other; and the to the service of creation.
And when the tiring trials and temptations of this world surround you, may you face them, awake to the never ending, never failing, covenant promises of God.
I bless you with the words of one imprisoned as a terrorist for speaking out against “the Matrix” of his own day. From the despair of the Guantanamo Bay of ancient Rome, a revelation of God’s promise…
I saw Heaven and earth new created. Gone the first Heaven, gone the first earth, gone the sea. I saw the Holy City, Zion, new-created, descending from heaven , like a beautiful bride prepared for her husband. And I heard a loud voice from the throne “Look!God has moved into the neighbourhood, making a home with men and women. God is yours’ and you belong to God. God will wipe every tear from your eyes. No death, no grief, no crying or pain. The old has gone. Awake, I am making all things new. ”
So let it be, Amen
Friends I present to you Cyd Sulte and Mariecris
Recessional: “It’s a Beautiful Day U2”

 

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One Reply to “Wedding: Matrix”

  1. Thanks Marx – this was really helpful to read. I was feeling a bit tired and stressed and starting to lose the plot a bit today but healthy perspective on the wedding/marriage thing is always a good thing! Luv ya work!!

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