Celebrating Words and Images that will Story your Marriage
A wedding ceremony uses words and symbols to publicly express your journey. The following exercises create a starting point for thinking about how you image-ine your relationship. It may help you think in different ways about the meaning of your union and to choose a mix of personal and traditional creative elements for your unique ceremony.
Previous Wedding Ceremonies I have created with couples are archived on my blog under Wedding Stuff.
Write the first 3-5 words you think of for each:
STRENGTHS of your relationship
WEAKNESSES of your relationship
FEARS of your relationship
FEARS of family and friends
EXPECTATIONS of your relationship
EXPECTATIONS of family and friends
How would you describe your partner and what it is that you value about them?
(Make it a habit! Share it with each other, now, tomorrow….always! )
Consider images of marriage from your own family, peers, movies, etc. positive and negative.
What are the images that are important / helpful to your relationship now.
How do you image-ine your future? What images would you include in your view of a successful relationship? What are your hopes? Imagine your union at the end of your life? What are you proud of?
Draw the journey of your coming together on a blank piece of paper. Depict key moments, places, struggles etc.
Good art captures the essence of complex reality through simple words and images. Try to express your relationship with 1-3 keywords in each category in the table below. First reactions are often best.
|Yourself||Your Partner||Your Relationship|
Some Images/ Themes from the Christian Tradition
Two becoming one flesh, Mystery, Mutual Submission, Vocation, Creation, Covenant, Jesus’ Miracle at The Wedding at Cana, Abundance and Fertility, The Marriage of God and His People, The union of Christ and the Church, Hosea’s unfaithful wife,The unity and diversity of the Trinity, A cord of three strands not easily broken (Ecclesiasties 4), Love is…(1 Corinthians 13), The Great Banquet, The Parable of the Wise and Foolish Virgins, Wedding Water turned into Wine,The Marriage Feast of the Lamb.